Erma Bombeck once said a family is a strange little band of characters trudging through life sharing diseases and toothpaste, coveting one another's desserts, hiding shampoo, locking each other out of our rooms, inflicting pain and kissing to heal it in the same instant, loving, laughing, defending, and trying to figure out the common thread that bound us all together.
I never knew she was looking into our windows on a daily basis! Had I known, I am sure she would have never seen any of us act this way. It is so great to know others in our world react the same as we do. I never met Erma, but have read and savored each of her quotes and stories. In my twenties, I thought she was so funny and had a quick saying for everything. By my thirties I knew she was telling the truth with all her quotes. Her wit is where I find some of my best encouragement.
In 1979 she wrote, “If I had my life to live over” and I found it inspiring. I check it frequently to see how many of the changes she felt she missed, I had taken the time to achieve.
My children even assumed unknowingly the “mom loves you best” roles she writes about. My oldest son and youngest daughter are always calling my middle son Mom’s favorite. At first it really bothered me because I love each of them equally, with every ounce of my being! Why couldn't they see that? Then I researched Erma and found her I love you best tribute to her children.
She wrote to three children, which is what I have. My oldest is our tower of strength. He’s so loving, dependable and supportive. He gives his time to others, loves children deeply and has laughter sealed in his heart. My middle son is very laid back. He enjoys a good laugh and is okay for someone else to take charge. He is a hard worker, devoted to family, and giving to those less fortunate. My daughter, the baby, is a whirlwind of emotions, extremely outspoken and fights for every ounce of footing having two older brothers. She loves and respects, works hard, cares for those less fortunate, shares her joys or sorrows and treats others with respect and encouragement.
Somewhere buried deep inside their elementary school papers they will find my I love you best letter to them. I’ve written them several times over the years, to capture why I loved them at different life stages. Maybe then it will settle this age old battle they so joyfully engage in. It’s quite fun to watch actually. Their eyes all light up with mischief as they start, makes my heart swell with laughter and pride that they have a connection they all agree on, that Mom loves them best.
So, with this said, I will now close and I thank my children, who I love with all my heart. For without them, I would not be who I am today. I love you, Mom.
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